Gladys Famoriyo - Inspirational Author & Speaker

eWomen eZine Issue 46 - July/Aug 2008

Hi there,

This months article is for all of us women who find ourselves constantly 'pouring out' yet not effectively replenishing ourselves. Is this you? If so, I hope the article provides you with some food for thought.

Enjoy!

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Are Your Reservoirs Full Enough?
By Gladys Famoriyo - CEO, Author, Speaker & Coach
 

Do you find yourself constantly sacrificing yourself for others, to your own detriment? Are you drained from continuously 'doing' without the necessary investment to keep you going? 

If you answered 'yes' to any of the above, my question to you is how long do you think you will last running on empty?

Honestly, life is not about constantly being ‘on the go’. It is about striking a healthy balance between what you ‘pour out’ and what you ‘pour back in’. As you pour out, you need to replace what you have become devoid of. Doing this helps you remain ‘fit for service’. Just the same way you will not drive your car on an empty gas tank, is the same way you ought to treat yourself.

What many of us fail to realise is that our abilities, effectiveness, performance, and results are affected by the amount of self-investment we participate in (or the lack of it). Remember saying, garbage in, garbage out?  Well, it’s true as you can only give out of what you have in your reservoirs.

So for you to function well, you need to make sure you fill up on what you need, on every level. In addition to this, your ‘engine’ needs to be serviced regularly. For this to happen, you will need to turn off your engine and put on the brakes. Why? Because you can't service a moving car! Get my drift?

Therefore, if you are serious about being effective and successful in all that you do, take time to consider the state of your physical, spiritual, and emotional reservoirs. Are they full, adequate or running low? Depending on your response, I suggest you aim to keep them on full at all times to get the best out of YOU! After all, we all know what happens to a car with an empty gas tank….it breaks down!

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Gladys Famoriyo On The Front Cover Of Easy Magazine (New Nation Newspaper, Barbados)
The Sunday Magazine For The Prestigious New Nation Newspaper (Barbados)

Gladys Famoriyo was featured on the front cover of Easy Magazine, the Sunday magazine for the prestigious New Nation Newspaper, Barbados. She was interviewed by the magazine following her recent visit to speak at the annual �Women’s Leadership Summit that took place in Barbados.

Click here to read the interview.

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eWomen eZine Issue 45 - Are You A Survivor?

Greetings!
Just got back from speaking at a Women's Leadership Conference in Barbados (see below for more info). What an awesome time! It is always a pleasure & honour to be able to touch womens lives. And so, I hope & pray that this months article will make a positive impact on you.

Keep aiming for greatness!
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This months feature article - Are You A Survivor? By Gladys Famoriyo - CEO, Author, Speaker & Coach

One definition of a survivor is one who continues to function or prosper despite opposition, hardship or setback*. Is this you? Before you answer, you may want to take a trip down memory lane and consider the challenging and/or perturbing life situations you have experienced.

The dilemma we face is that we get too caught up in what we are going through to notice that we are still standing. Whilst in this mode, we fail to notice that we continue to function or prosper despite our experiences. Now you may not consider yourself a survivor because you did not get the outcome you wanted or ended up emotionally battered/bruised. But that’s not what REALLY counts. Rather, it’s all about how you handled your situation and moved from it. It’s about growing BETTER from your experiences and not bitter.

I believe being a survivor is a choice we make. We can choose to allow our experiences to hold us back or use them to PROPEL us FORWARD. What would it be? Make that choice today!

*www.Dictionary.com

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Gladys Famoriyo Speaks To Women Leaders In Barbados

Gladys Famoriyo spoke at the Empowering Women for Success Leadership Summit, which took place in Barbados. The 2-day conference (May 22-23) at the Hilton, was attended by women leaders from Barbados and beyond. Gladys joined a line up of dynamic speakers and leaders, who delivered powerful sessions to support women succeed in their roles. The feedback from the event has been astounding and Gladys will be speaking at the conference next year in Trinidad. More info to follow.

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Find Out How Gladys Famoriyo Can Help You, Your Group, Church Or Organisation

Call/email Coach Gladys to find out how her services can support you. Gladys, a dynamic speaker, speaks to groups, Churches and organisations.

Do you or your group need inspiration? Why not read Gladys' book, Overcoming Emotional Baggage: A Woman's Guide To Living The Abundant Life to spur you on. Study the life-changing book and work through the exercises individually, with a friend or in your group?
PS: There is strength in numbers.

Click here to contact us. Click here to find out more about Gladys' Book. Purchase a copy here.

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eWoman Issue 44: Are You Suffering From Rejection?

Welcome to this months issue!

In line with our yearlong strategy to advance women, I believe you will find it an interesting read as it deals with the sensitive subject of rejection.

This months feature Article: Are You Suffering From Rejection?

Though we don’t like to admit this, many of us are suffering from the effects of rejection. Consider the impact the following situations may have had on you:

· Your partner (husband, boyfriend, fiancé, father of your kids) walking out on you?
· One or more of your parents/guardians making you feel that you were/are not important to them?
· Your friends, family, or spouse who are never available when you need help.
· Your spouse rejecting you.
· No one showing interest in you e.g. romantically.
· You did not get the promotion at work or the business deal/client despite you working long hours, hard work, dedication, high performance, etc.
· You keep getting knocked back.
· You feel your are being ostracized for being 'different'.

Whilst you might say, “well I just got on with life”. Have  you really? By the way, just because you have physically moved on is no indication that same has taken place emotionally, mentally, or spiritually. How can you tell if you have accumulated emotional baggage from your experiences? It’s simple! Watch your attitudes, beliefs and behaviours. Here are some clues:

· You blame yourself though the issue may not lie with you.
· You reject others before they get a chance to reject you.
· You avoid any situations that might result in rejection (e.g. don’t apply for the job/promotion, avoid committing to a relationships, etc).
· You conform to what you feel others would accept.

When we experience rejection, we (consciously or not) endeavour to protect ourselves and/or deal with our situation (e.g. through the use of coping behaviours). The problem is that our chosen method may do us more harm that good. Moreover, when we fail to deal with our feelings of rejection, we may develop low self-worth, become insecure, loose our identity, become angry, obsessive, and much more. In short, you end up with more baggage!

So I encourage you, take a moment to reflect on whether you are suffering from rejection. Because whether you like it or not, it will become a stumbling block to your progress.

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Gladys Famoriyo/Success Partners Announcements

Find Some Friends & Deal With Your Emotional Baggage Together
Join Women Worldwide Who Are Dealing With Their Baggage

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About Overcoming Emotional Baggage: The book powerfully portrays the impact of emotional baggage on women, hence creating the Female Hybrid. This inspiring book provides powerful strategies and spiritual principles that aim to support women address the Female Hybrid in them - freeing them to pursue a life of true success. This book is a  'must have' for any women aiming for the top!

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Come And Meet Us At The 2008 National Christian Resources Exhibition
Tue 13 - Fri 16 May 2008 Sandown Park, Esher

Gladys Famoriyo/Success Partners LTD will be showcasing our Overcoming Emotional Baggage Initiative. If you are a group/organisation leader, a key decision maker in your establishment, run seminars/conferences/workshops, or are passionate about developing women, we want to hear from you. Meet us at THE SHARING SHOW section of the exhibition. See you there

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eWoman Issue 43: A Stitch In Time Could Save You Nine

Happy International Women’s Month!

This issue is the first of our year long campaign to support women, globally, position themselves for success. To do this, we will be focusing on developing the ‘Inner You’ as this is a key ingredient for lasting success. So join our campaign and watch out for more strategies coming your way.

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Feature Article - A Stitch In Time Could Save You Nine

You have heard of the saying, “a stitch in time could save you nine” which simply encourages us to avoid procrastination in dealing with a task/issue or else we will end up with a bigger task/issue than before. “But how does this tie in with emotional wellbeing?”, you might ask. Well read on…

I’m sure both you and I can think back to different times in our lives when “a stitch in time” could have saved us “nine!” For doing so could have saved us a lot of hassle and even improved our health, finances, relationships, career, etc….if only we dealt with it sooner. Think of the mounting unpaid bill(s) you ignored, that has now ruined your credit. Consider the savings account or pension scheme you promised to sign up for years ago. What of the course/qualifications you kept putting off which is now affecting your job prospects. Catch my drift?

Well, the same principle goes for our emotional and mental well-being. When we keep putting off dealing our emotional baggage, it ends up affecting various aspects of our lives. They underpin our attitudes, beliefs and behaviours which means you may find yourself making poor choices and bad decisions. More importantly, if you are keen on succeeding, this is an area you simply can't afford to overlook as this will impact the results you yield. Moreover, you end up expending more energy to get what you want.

So is now the time to set healthier boundaries before you really get hurt? Do you need to confront someone before you lash out at them (or others) in fury? Is now the time to consider getting help regarding your self-defeating or self-destructive behaviours (e.g. addictions to food, alcohol, spending, etc)? Are you carrying negative emotions and mindsets that are hindering you from moving on with your life (e.g. fear, anger, bitterness, low self-esteem, etc)? If so, it pays to keep the old saying in mind and deal with your issues pronto or be prepared to face the BIGGER consequences that WILL end up costing you a lot more.

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Gladys Famoriyo/Success Partners LTD Announcements

Join Our Year Long Campaign To Position Women, Globally, For Success
Overcome Your Baggage Campaign

Are you tired of not getting what you want out of life? Keen to move on from your past? Sick and tired of feeling the way you do? Is so, why not join our campaign? We will be offering a number of initiatives over the coming months, designed with you in mind. Want to get on board? Why not register on www.Gladysf.Com (if you have not already done so) to get exclusive announcements and offers. In the meantime, why not arm yourself with a copy of my book, Overcoming Emotional Baggage: A Woman's Guide To Living The Abundant Life (Milestones International Publishers, ISBN 0-924748-73-7).

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Our Gladysf.Com website has been upgraded. We now have a discussion forum/message board and a product shop. We also have a resource centre too. So why not take a moment to visit our site. Also, help us spread the word by using the Refer A Friend facility. To experience the full functionality of the website, you will need to be a registered member. If you have any constructive feedback, please drop us a line using our contacts page form. We will be adding more products to the shop each month, so be sure to bookmark us and revisit us regularly.

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In Next Months Issue….
Join Our Year Long Campaign To Help Women Get Rid Of Their Emotional Baggage

Next month, we embark a yearlong programme to support women worldwide get rid of their emotional baggage. Based on Gladys Famoriyo's fast selling book, Overcoming Emotional Baggage: A Woman's Guide To Living The Abundant Life (Milestones International Publishers, ISBN 0-924748-73-7). Want to join in? Watch out for next months issue. Get your copy today and be prepared for a life-changing experience. Get your copy here.

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Want To Succeed With Your Goals? Change Your Approach - Issue 42

Happy New Year!!

It’s a new year and many people get discouraged with the fact that ‘things’ have not gone their way in the past year. Maybe some (if not all) of your dreams or goals did not materialise. Maybe your efforts didn’t seem to produce the results you wanted.

Well, regardless of your outcomes, I encourage not to give up. You know what, it’s a new year - one filled with new opportunities. Rather than crying over spilt milk, consider what you might do differently. How might your approach change this year? The trap many fall into is not taking the time to evaluate their actions (i.e. the ‘what’, ‘why’, and ‘how’). Simply repeating the same attitudes, beliefs and behaviours will not serve you in any shape or form.

So, if you are not getting the results you want, CHANGE! For some, it could mean changing the actions they take (i.e. stop, start or continue certain actions) where as for others, you might have to change the goal altogether (are you trying to live someone else’s dream, live up to another persons expectations or values? Is this goal still important to you after all people and situations DO change? Do you need additional support? Maybe you thought you could achieve it on your own whereas, in reality, you need some form of support to help you get it off the ground and/or keep it going. Now there is food for thought.

Need further support? Sign up for our February special offers. You choose - teleclass or 1:1 coaching. Click here.

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In Next Months Issue….
Join Our Year Long Campaign To Help Women Get Rid Of Their Emotional Baggage

Next month, we embark a yearlong programme to support women worldwide get rid of their emotional baggage. Based on Gladys Famoriyo's fast selling book, Overcoming Emotional Baggage: A Woman's Guide To Living The Abundant Life (Milestones International Publishers, ISBN 0-924748-73-7). Want to join in? Watch out for next months issue. Get your copy today and be prepared for a life-changing experience. Get your copy here.

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eWoman is published by Success Partners LIMITED, an award-winning international Training and Development organisation that creates pioneering products and services for individuals, groups and organisations. Gladys Famoriyo, the CEO, is an inspirational international speaker, who speaks at organisations or special events. Her wealth of experience makes her an expert in her field. Gladys is available for speaking engagements, media interviews and can provide expert advice or comments on the following subject areas: women issues, emotional wellbeing, leadership/management training and development, success, and work/life balance. Being a published writer, she is also available to write articles. For more information about our services or to get in contact with us, call our office on +44(0) 870 750 1969 or email using our contact form on our website www.gladysf.com

Create New Rules for your Life-Issue 41

Many of us complain about our jobs, relationships, finances and much more yet fail to take the necessary action to change the situation.

My personal philosophy concerning such matters is as follows: If something is not working for you, change it!” It’s not rocket science but a principle I believe we can all embrace. We all have the power to make changes to our circumstances. That is a privilege we all have when it comes to managing the lives we have been blessed with. So if you feel you need to make some changes concerning your life, read through my easy steps below:

1. Press pause. Rather than repeating behaviours/actions that is not benefiting you, take time to reflect on the situation.
2. Be honest, with yourself, in regards to how the situation makes you feel and accept it. Forget about what others may think. Focus on you and the impact of the situation.
3. Ponder on the specific changes you would like to see. The key word is specific. Rather than stating fluffy or woolly statements, hone in to the changes you would like to see. For example, don’t just say, “I want a new job/career”, state the exact type job/career you want, the wage bracket, the location, the specific role/responsibilities, level (e.g. graduate, managerial, VP, Partner) and so on. If you want to change your financial status, what exactly do you want to change it to (e.g. being overdrawn to being in credit at the end of the month)?
4. Now you are clear on what you want, create a set of new rules to govern your life and help you overcome whatever it is you are facing. If it is a money issue, create a budget & give yourself an allowance to live on. If it is a boring job/career, create rules get you out of the situation such as going back to school, applying for jobs regularly. If it is a relationship causing you grief, create new rules depicting how others are allowed to treat you from henceforth.

Get the picture? If you don’t change your attitudes, beliefs and behaviours, you will find yourself trapped in a vicious cycle. Always remember that you have the power to change your situation and take the appropriate action.

So the next time you feel like whining over a situation, refer to this article and take positive action to turning around the situation you are facing.

PS: Remember – the power to change things lies in your hands

Deal With Your F.E.A.R. And Take That Leap Of Faith - I40

Have you ever started a project, dream or goal and but quit because of your fears? Maybe you had an idea but never got it off the ground because you thought it might not workout? Are you the type whose mind conjures 101 images of what could go wrong? Sounds like you may have been bitten by the FEAR bug?

People, bound by FEAR, are often fearful of the task (size, effort, costs, challenges, etc) and/or its potential outcome. Because of this, some never bother starting and those who do, end up quitting.

Can I just be real here? Please understand that FEAR will always come – even to the best of us. However, pioneers know how to deal with it. They make internal mind shifts and develop attitudes and beliefs that eventually drown out the voices that says, “you can't do it” or “you will fail”. They confront their FEARS rather than allow them to overrule them.

I remember when I first started writing, thoughts of “you can't write!” or “it’s hard to get a book published” bombarded my mind but I persevered. However, after writing two books and countless published articles, I now recognise it was simply FEAR trying to hold me back.

So turning the focus on you, have you allowed FEAR to creep in and hinder you from doing what you were created to do? Take a moment to reflect on the people whose lives you could have changed with your project or idea (including yours). Consider the fulfilment and sheer joy you would have felt upon conquering your FEAR and achieving your desires.

Remember one way of defining F.E.A.R. is False Evidence Appearing Real. What has FEAR made to appear real to you? By the way, what is the worst that can happen anyway? If things do not go according to plan, you have merely discovered one way on how not to do things. So simply try another.

In conclusion, recognise that some of your greatest battles take place in your mind and you need to win the battle there first, before taking any action. Overcome your FEARS and you become limitless in your potential. So why not take that leap of faith and go for it anyway? After all, you have nothing to loose and plenty to gain.

Keep Soaring!

GladysF

Is It Time For A Break? - Issue 39

Many of us (me included) rush around through life trying to accomplish our great dreams and goals. Day in, day out, we forge ahead at full speed despite the huge challenges and pressures we face (not forgetting the disappointments too!). Yet many of us don’t know when to apply the breaks. Before you know it, your effectiveness, productivity, capabilities, motivation, etc plummets.

Take a moment to consider these questions. Are you feeling disillusioned, frustrated or unmotivated? Are you suffering from burnout physically, spiritually or emotionally? These are telltale signs that you are heading for a fall. So can I suggest something? Why not give yourself a well-deserved break? Why not carve out a few days, weeks or even months – depending on your personal needs, to nurture yourself and get yourself back up to speed?

Take it from a Pro. You are only human – not superhuman. After a period of hard graft, it is only natural to feel exhausted. After constant disappointments, its natural to feel disillusioned or frustrated. However, you need to ensure that you put systems in place to support you finishing your life journey and finish it well (i.e. healthy and sane!). Part of your plan ought to be taking a break. Funny isn’t it how we know to take our cars in for a service after driving for a certain period of time or number of miles, yet we struggle to do the same for ourselves. What an irony.

So why not take some time out to rekindle the fires that were once alight in you? This will allow you to rest, reflect, be restored, replenished, and refocused. You owe it to yourself! More importantly, you owe it to the people you have been created to serve (i.e. the rest of us). Trust me Sis, we need you whole and well.

Smiles and hugs

Gladys

PS: Even God rested!